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CORE Bites Issue #51
No. It's two letters ... one word ... a complete sentence. But "no" can be a contentious word which frequently makes things awkward between those in management and their employees. Central to the difficulty in saying no is the tension between exercising our authority and maintaining relationships with our employees. We may not say "no" because we're afraid of somehow damaging the relationship. Over the years I've met many people in management who find it easy to say "yes" ... but struggle when needing to say "no."
While none of us want to be known as a human brake pedal, saying no is a fact of life for anyone in management. As a leader, there will be times when you have to say no to an employee. From denying a request for a day off, to vetoing an idea, to denying an exception to policy, to turning down a request for a pay increase, to rejecting a budget proposal, saying no is a natural (and necessary) part of managing people.
However, that doesn't mean it has to be painful.
I just finished reading The Power of a Positive No: How to Say No and Still Get to Yes by William Ury, a professor at Harvard. Ury says it's not surprising that people find it difficult to say no. In his words, "After all, most people aren't very good at it."
While Ury's book is a comprehensive instruction manual describing how to deliver a Positive No in pretty much every area of life, this issue of CORE Bites only has room for a couple of powerful nuggets from the book. If you're interested in reading my notes from this book, click here.
There will be times when you have to say no to an employee—it's unavoidable. Here are a few HVAs to help you deliver a Positive No without hurting workplace morale:
I'd love to hear how this HVA works for you!
Neil Dempster, PhD, MBA
RESULTant™ and Behavioral Engineer
"A ‘no' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a ‘yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble."
— Mahatma Gandhi —